Whether you’re completely new to online dating, or are getting back onto the dating scene after a break, there are a few things you should bear in mind before getting started. Keeping in mind that to grow any relationship, you have to give a little to get a little. We also want you to exercise caution when getting to know any potential new dating partners whether you meet them in a bar, through a friend or on our site. Here are a few things you might like to consider:
-Stay in control
It is our top priority to ensure that you have a safe and successful experience on PrettyFilipinas.com. We strongly recommend that you stay within the site to build up relationships over time, rather than giving out your phone number, personal email or instant messenger address to matches that interest you straight away. Remember that with PrettyFilipinas.com you are fully in control of your search for love and can choose to take things at your own pace. Ensure that you have a record of all conversations, telephone bills, emails etc. for Visa reasons.
-Keep it real
With online dating you get what you give. Honesty and communication have often been viewed as the cornerstones of a happy relationship, so by being honest about yourself and what you’re looking for in a partner from the start, you’ll have a better chance of meeting someone who’s right for you. Our research shows that members with photographs receive as many as seven times more responses to their profiles than those without. So be sure to choose a recent picture that accurately reflects how you look now. Pick a headshot that clearly shows your face smiling and in a flattering light, plus one full-length shot, and another showing you doing something you enjoy such as walking your dog on the beach. Try to fill in all 8 photos on your profile, complete the compatibility test and fill in all aspects for your profile.
-Always be respectful
With online dating you get what you give. Honesty and communication have often been viewed as the cornerstones of any happy relationship. Being honest about yourself and what you’re looking for in a partner from the start, gives you a better chance of meeting someone who is right for you. Our research shows that members with photographs receive as many as seven times more responses to their profiles than those without. So be sure to choose a recent picture that accurately reflects how you look now. Pick a headshot that clearly shows your face smiling and in a flattering light, plus one full-length shot, and another showing you doing something you enjoy such as walking your dog on the beach. Try to fill in all 8 photos on your profile, complete the compatibility test and fill in all aspects for your profile.
-Get the most from your time on PrettyFilipinas.com
When creating your profile, if you want to catch people’s eyes and stand out from the crowd, it pays to be specific in your interests and to highlight the qualities you have. Don’t just simply state ‘I have a good sense of humour’ or ‘I enjoy nights in with a bottle of wine and a DVD’. If someone you like the sound of shows an interest in you, take a good look at their profile. Personalising your first email to them is everything. Pick up on common life experiences and interests and make a connection that way. A first email is about getting the conversation started, not revealing your entire life story – so leave something for you both to chat about next time. Make responding to your email as easy as possible by asking them some questions, it’s important to remember that the person at the other end may be waiting for you to make the first move.
-Tell us if something’s not right
Get to know potential dates before meeting them in person by exchanging messages through the PrettyFilipinas.com internal email or instant messenger services. Help us to ensure the success of our community by alerting us if you come across anything you feel is not right. There are several options available to you if you are unsure about the profile or activities of another member:
-If you have viewed a profile that gives you any cause for concern you can click on the ‘Report abuse‘ link.
-If you receive an instant message that you deem to be inappropriate you can click on the ‘Report abuse‘ link within the IM window.
-If you receive an email that you deem to be inappropriate you can click on the ‘Report abuse‘ link within the email.
Taking any of the above actions will flag the member causing you concern to our moderators immediately, which will help us resolve the issue quickly.
-Trust your instincts
Your common sense and instincts are a valuable tool in deciding whether to pursue a relationship with someone you meet in any walk of life. Love generally happens over time, so if someone you’ve never met or have recently made contact with asks you for money, they probably don’t have the best intentions. Although scams are rare, it’s still a good idea to be aware of how to recognise the warning signals, especially if you have decided to communicate with somebody privately outside of our site.
-If someone makes a declaration of love from an early stage in the relationship, be wary. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are.
-Requests for money or financial assistance are not acceptable. You should never send money to anyone you meet online; just as you would never give money to someone you recently met in a pub or cafe.
-If someone avoids giving basic details about themselves, but asks you a lot of questions about your own situation, consider their motives. Don’t be afraid to ask questions (See our Questions To Ask Section) so that you can build up a real picture of your potential match, and look out for any inconsistencies in the information they have shared with you. If you are suspicious, enter their name into an internet search engine, or report them to our customer care team.
-If someone is genuinely interested in you, this will naturally develop into a decision to meet up with one another. If your relationship is solely via emails, text messages and phone calls and doesn’t seem to ever develop into a face to face meeting, consider ceasing contact and focusing on other potential matches instead.
If you feel that you may have experienced monetary fraud, report it to us.
Stop communicating with any member who pressures you for personal information or who won’t seem to take no for an answer. People who are serious about online dating will understand your need to take your time.
-Be Date Smart
Meeting for the first time can be extremely exciting, but be sure to keep your feet on the ground. Choose a public place to meet where you feel comfortable and secure. Cafes for example are great places for first dates. A cup of coffee can be a short encounter or a longer meeting, depending on how well you hit it off!
For your own safety, never agree to be picked up at your home, and always make sure you have a way to get yourself to and from the date. Tell at least one friend or family member who you are meeting, where you are going and what time you expect to return. Let your date know that the meeting is not a secret and that others are aware of where you are going.
Stay sober throughout the date as having one too many could impair your ability to make good decisions. Keep your drink and personal belongings within sight at all times, and if you have a mobile phone, always take it with you. Most mobiles can make emergency calls even when locked, or out of credit.
-Long Distance Meetings
Fifty years ago, the idea of ‘courting’ someone who lived in the next town (much less across the globe) was pretty much unheard of. Today, technology has made it possible to make new friends all over the world, and we constantly hear of inspiring long-distance and international love stories. Exciting as it is, you should always take extra care and follow the tips below when travelling to meet someone for the first time.
Stay in a hotel. If you can’t afford to stay in a hotel, don’t go. Never stay at the other person’s home on your first visit and don’t get into a personal vehicle with someone that you are meeting for the first time. Use taxis to get to and from the airport.
Keep your hotel location private. Until you are completely certain of the person’s intentions, don’t reveal exactly where you’re staying. Always tell a friend or family member who you are meeting, exactly where you are going, what you plan to do whilst you are away and when you plan to return. Keep in regular contact with this friend via text message or email and share information about your date with them.
If you feel uncomfortable at any stage, excuse yourself to call a friend for advice or ask for the assistance of someone else on the scene. Never feel embarrassed, your safety is your top priority.
-Keep all communication records
Make sure that you keep a record of all phone bills, emails, conversations for any Visa applications in the future.
Remember to follow all of the tips and advice on this page until you feel confident with your new partner. If the other person is sincerely interested in you, he or she will want you to feel comfortable and will be happy to take things slowly.
Every year, thousands of people successfully find love online, so why not get started now?
15 Ways To Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out
Creating an online dating profile can be scary. After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or (even worse) desperate.
Did you know that one in three couples now find love online? In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away. So, it seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.
1. Ask your friends for help: Get a friend to help you write your profile. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.
2. Avoid clichés: Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that. Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.
3. List sociable hobbies: People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you, . Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.
4. Choose action shots: Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
5. Stay positive: Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
6. Be honest: Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Honesty is the best policy!
7. Be specific: Talk in specifics to give a full flavour of who you are. If you love travelling, say where your favourite place is and why. Anything concrete like this brings you alive to anyone reading.
8. Update regularly: Keep your profile up to date. Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.
9. Check your grammar: Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Put your profile into Word and use your computer spell check for peace of mind.
10. Say cheese: In a recent poll, we found that 96 per cent of people would rather see a big, happy grin in a profile photo than a sexy pout.
11. Choose recent photos: If they are more than a year old, don’t use them. One of the most frequent complaints about online dating profiles is “they may have looked like that once but they certainly don’t look like that now”. Looking better in the flesh is better than the reverse.
12. Keep it short and sweet: You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online,. Women have a tendency to write too much because we enjoy reading long profiles. Men are not like us! Imagine you are doing an icebreaker introduction where you have to sum yourself up briefly.
13. Have fun: Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.
14. Be the focus: Don’t choose a picture where you are not the main focal point.
15. Summer lovin’: Our latest research found that people in summery photographs were seen as more attractive than in their winter pics. Go back through your Facebook holiday album and find some recent summertime photos.
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